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Why Surrounding Yourself with Smarter People Wonβt Set You Free But Finding the Brave Ones Will
βIf you are lonely when youβre alone, you are in bad company.β β Jean-Paul Sartre.
Donβt surround yourself with βsmarterβ people. They tend to be clingy know-it-alls, with every fact and figure filed away β ready to pounce on your casual ignorance like itβs some kind of moral failing. What you should do is surround yourself with people who are free in ways youβre not. They might not be able to recite Nietzsche over a cup of coffee, but they could teach you how to let go, breathe, and avoid winding up in a straitjacket.
Free people bring a kind of chaos and release that the supposedly βsmarterβ ones simply canβt. They can teach you how to walk away from expectations, how to say no without justifying every inch of it, and how to be alive. Youβll watch them and think, βHow are they doing that?β Well, they arenβt bogged down with the endless calculations and neurotic second-guessing that βsmartβ people do. Freedom, in its true form, is about having the nerve to not care sometimes.